I think, in most partnerships, there is one person who is smarter than the other.
I don’t mean the person with the most redeeming qualities; hopefully most relationships are relatively balanced in that respect. But if you challenged each with a combination of traditional knowledge and ‘street smart’ tasks, who would fare better?
Sometimes it’s easy to determine which of the pair holds the bigger bag of IQ points. Others aren’t so transparent; you only know which way the scale tips after befriending the couple.
But what I’ve realized is that in my relationship with Seth, I don’t know who is smarter. And neither does he.
Of course, I think Seth is many other things “more” than I am. He’s nicer than I. He’s more thoughtful than I. He’s funnier than I. These qualities stand out because I admire, am humbled by, and rely upon them.
Sometimes we take on certain roles, though not always in the same vein. Who would have thought that I would negotiate the price when we bought a new vehicle? And who would guess that he is better at giving the bunnies medicine when needed? But it all evens out, every time.
I am a complete, balanced, and better person with Seth. He challenges me when I’m feeling sharp then comforts me when I’m having a foggy day. He will affectionately elbow me to play around or hold me when I feel so sick.
For better or worse – and those days seem endless right now – I can be myself. He will love and respect me just for that.
Some people say that Seth seems like the perfect man. I only know he is perfect for me.